What made the ensuing court case significant is a female judge had sided with the mom and tried to stifle the father’s voice and his ability to defend the boy.
Outrageous isn’t the right word to describe most people’s reactions. If I lived in Texas, I would have been happy to picket the courthouse.
In Ottawa, a few years ago a case surfaced when a grade one teacher told her class: girls and boys did not exist. It’s that gender fluidity issue again.
This happened about four miles from my home at the Prince of Wales primary school. The principal, another woman, backed her teacher’s abuse, or idiocy, or whatever you want to call it.
One little girl in the class was so distraught to find out she was not a girl (like mommy), it affected her with daily worry.
Oh great, just what we need: take the gender that is already biologically prone to fear and give them more reason to be freaked out about themselves. The parents moved their child schools and lodged a human rights complaint.
They should have sued as well. They lost at the Human Rights Tribunal of Ontario. Should we be surprised.
I remember my first trans client, a heroin addict named Mercedes (obviously her street name).
Coming from a large Quebec farm family, she was born with both sets of genitalia and raised a boy. Boys are needed on farms more than girls. Thus, began her odyssey which included her eventually reclaiming what she felt was her rightful female identify.
After disappointing her father and leaving home, she often worked as a hooker and had done time for robbing Johns. She’d long been on hormones and had huge tits and clearly female facial characteristics. When I knew her in the 1980s working as an addiction’s counselor, she was an attractive but slightly overweight middle-aged woman.
I found her charming but manipulative — though not dangerously so — as she asked me to write a book about her journey. I was there to help her with her drug habit and wasn’t distracted. I quite liked her.
She described her physical and mental ordeal at length, hoping one day to visit a Scandinavian country which was the only place offering sex-reassignment surgery at the time according to her.
Her justification for being a hooker was to afford her medical interventions. Now, it can be done here.
The universe doesn’t make mistakes. We don’t get to second guess how things turn out. People like Mercedes could be said to be put here to teach us something, even if that lesson is just tolerance.
To me, her condition was not unheard of as I had spent part of my previous summer at L’Universite de Sherbrooke studying sexology and addictions. I was fully aware of the link between substance abuse and trans, minor though it is comparatively.
At the recovery home, she fit right in as a woman though raised as an unhappy boy.
The acquired Childhood Experiences Study (ACE scores) by Kaiser Permanente was still a few years off but a quick survey of the 20 mixed gender people in any of the groups I ran (when I was the only counselor on duty all weekend) would tell you what you already knew. An ACE score of 4 and above is associated with higher risk of all kinds of things from heart disease to diabetes to mental illness.
Trauma causes stress and stress lies behind addiction. That can be early or late, sudden or gradual, biological or environmental, and nothing since has changed my mind. It is about the nervous system and how it is trained by experience.
So, despite my background as a straight male, I have some experience with trans people. I’m also sympathetic.
The current trend towards gender fluidity is my concern. I’m further convinced that like many social trends where there may have existed a tolerance deficit, in a classic corrective overreaction, it means the pendulum of change is swinging wide in error.
Rather than quietly making small adjustments, the trans cause hitched its case on the vocal gay rights movement and here we are.
I get the impression this was facilitated by social sciences academics, a majority of whom are now female. Women are far more egalitarian than are men and I suspect a shrill cry for egalitarianism from a corps of overthinking and influential females has resulted in a well-intentioned, not inclusion oriented but instead, dominant trend, which is misplaced and unnecessary, and in fact, harmful.
There I said it.
Not long after hearing about the Texas case I happened to be driving and listening to CBC radio, our Canadian public broadcaster, and heard a female academic who was advising the Ontario Education Ministry.
She stated gender fluidity must be taught in all schools from primary to secondary and that each teacher had a “moral obligation” to get the word out.
Are you kidding me? This is egalitarianism run amok.
This is the feminization of the culture occurring in a vacuum of male weakness.
“Unlike Boys, girls almost never boast, command one another, tell jokes at one another’s expense, try to top one another’s stories, call each other names, or in any way show off, and they sure don’t let any other girl do this. No girl is superior to any other girl. Should a girl appear superior, even accidentally, she faces social exclusion.”
That quote is from Joyce Benenson, a prof at The Emanuelle School (p. 178, Warriors and Worriers, 2014, Kindle version), though she is affiliated with and did most of the studies she quotes through Harvard.
Women are less social, more egalitarian and fearful than are men.
The feminine energy we currently experience embraces a kind of equality that shouldn’t be trusted for its proximity to socialist or even Marxist philosophy.
Great for women competing among each other as primary caregivers, lousy at making public policy which will determine how our children are educated on things like gender.
In her 2019 book, Primal Screams, Mary Eberhardt advances the idea politically that correctness is at least partially due to a breakdown in family.
Factors like economics, more people living in cities and so having fewer children, feminism, state support for single mothers, easy divorce laws, abortion on demand, the pill, etc. have all contributed to a much-changed family dynamic.
Political correctness might be a search for identity, she says, as people look outside of family for causes to believe in.
To taboo or not taboo: I could care less who you are having sex with as long as it’s not with children or animals and the adults involved have consented.
I have seen enough in my time to realize there is a fair bit of flexibility among folks. I’m all for less shame in society.
Look, probably over our history the taboo against homosexuality existed for a reason, especially given women’s competing for resources from men and others because of their primary caregiver status.
But also, men need to know that the guy next to him is tough enough to stand beside him and fight enemies. That’s why young boys taunt others who act like girls.
This is a hardwired set of traits.
Women being more fearful is also an inborn trait. She risks anxiety and depression at a far greater rate than do men.
Her priority after all, it to bring life forward into the future. Kind of important. She is ultra-sensitive to competition and allies.
This need to keep babies alive is the basis of her greater level of fear when compared to men. Looking after children is a job that is NEVER done.
Children can’t be left alone for a SECOND let alone a minute. Do the math: 60 seconds in a minute, that’s 525,948 minutes in a year, or over HALF A BILLION seconds to keep a kid alive to age sixteen.
It drives women a little nuts and we should appreciate their inborn tendency to worry, without condescension, but rather, with much due appreciation, even with awe.
Some men have always had sex with each other. The Greeks are famous for it and from what I can tell, until there is a woman who can interpose herself between a man and his sexual energy, it’s natural.
Some guys can become aroused with other men and some can’t. It is not my thing, but I know when I was in the penitentiary, the barbershop was full of trans and effeminate men we called sisters.
One of them, Sabrina, had undergone the hormone treatments and had what must have been about a 34 C rack on her. She was a mulatto with high cheekbones, quite attractive, usually wearing a white wife beater style t shirt with no bra.
She’d come into the visiting center on weekends and all the wives and girlfriends visiting their men would get jealous. It freaked my ex out a bit.
But, there were men in there who were big and fierce bisexual men. Jimmy had 22-inch arms and had a young kid as his boyfriend. He was doing life and was president of the inmate committee…. The kid was well protected.
There was “three tape Helen” who was another trans gal. The rumour was there was always three pieces of tape at the ready on her bunk which she used to affix her long penis to her shaved belly so guys sodomizing her wouldn’t have to suffer the indignity of her appendage.
Try getting that image out of your mind now.
OK, OK, you get the picture… or message.
It’s just that the kind of upheaval we are witnessing is unnecessary given the size of the population involved.
By the numbers, here’s the data:
“The LGBT community is small. Early research on the prevalence of homosexuality suggested that roughly 10 percent of the adult population were gay or lesbian (Kinsey, Pomeroy, and Martin 1948).
We now know that these were inflated estimates (Carpenter 2013; Vizard 2014). Using six national and state representative data sets, Carpenter (2013) found that roughly 1 to 2.3 percent of the U.S. adult population identified as either gay or lesbian. Between 0.7 and 2.9 percent identified as bisexual (Carpenter 2013:217).
Transgender individuals account for roughly 0.6 percent of the U.S. population (Flores et al. 2016). Similar estimates have been found in Canada, with 1 percent of adults identifying as either gay or lesbian and 0.7 percent identifying as bisexual (Statistics Canada 2004).
For comparison purposes, 22.3 percent of the Canadian population identify as a visible minority, 21.9 percent of the Canadian population are foreign born, 4.9 percent are Indigenous, and 14 percent report having an impairment or disability that limit their daily activities (Statistics Canada 2015, 2017a, 2017b).”
Sean Waite & Nicole Denier from A Research Note on Canada’s LGBT Data Landscape: Where We Are and What the Future Holds. 2019
So two percent of the population are gays and lesbians with a few outlier dabblers and experimenters. Genetic mutations if you will.
But, just a half a point of any population are people like Mercedes.
Surely, not fun for her, and anyone who must face pain alone without people around them acting as angels of better mercy, attachment figures to which they may turn to when needed is by definition: traumatized.
Just as any kid reaches for mommy when he or she is afraid, all people need social engagement.
If we think we are going to alleviate trauma by telling little girls and boys’ gender doesn’t exist, I’d suggest you give your head a shake.
It’s in our nature to be traumatized and from it, to create resilience.
I want to encourage men to voice their concerns where they have them. It’s the silencing of male leadership power under the fearfulness of a feminine energy dominated public narrative that is the root cause of what we see happening today with the “trans question.”
I don’t even know if such a thing exists, but I do know this: wherever a small group of people can band together and act to further their interests over others, they always do it.
I don’t care what group it is; self-interest is paramount (as Conrad Black says).
Men lead, women command.
That means we either step up and lead or prepare to be bossed around by the feminine trying to mitigate insecurity. There are plenty of good contributing women out there, the ones in charge and speaking to this issue in these fashions are mistaken.
Their “white knight” enablers can’t be trusted.
Men and women have banded together since the dawn of time to take advantage of each other’s strengths and shore up each other’s weaknesses.
A woman can pretty much do anything a man can do but will have clear preferences. Those preferences are usually influenced by her caregiving status and her propensity to be attracted to the vulnerable. That’s generally the undeniable facts of her existence.
Don’t buy into the idea of a patriarchy somehow dominating women. We’d never have language unless there was reasonable equality between us.
Where there is inequality we ought to step in and speak for those who cannot speak for themselves because of development or numbers. But we don’t upset the apple cart for a few bad apples.
It’s the Lindy Effect I learned from Nicholas Taleb: A book in circulation for one hundred years is almost assured to be in circulation in one hundred more. A book published last month has almost no chance of still being around in a hundred years.
The idea of gender fluidity is but a few years old.
Nature? It has been around millions of years.
I bet on nature.
Invictus, true and free!