NO ONE DOES IT ALONE

Maybe you’ve never thought about it: time spent with men.

You should think about it now. Let me give you the secret to success: cooperation. 

Belonging is everything to humans.

In fact, the need to belong underwrites the whole emotional system. 

Connect = feel good.

Disconnect = feel bad.

A lack of social connection has twice the effect on health as obesity. 

Low connection brings your mortality in line with that of a smoker, even if you never touch a cigarette.

Heart attacks, strokes, blood pressure, autoimmune disease and cancer, all worse when belonging goes amiss.

The most reliable predictor of happiness all over the world is a sense of harmony with those you care about—personal relationships and social support. 

Seeing someone you call a close friend or lover daily is worth about a 100K per year in equivalent life satisfaction.

Indirectly, we help you with personal relationships by making you stronger so they are easier.

Directly… we help your social support. 

One of the Men of Honour members likes to say the internet could save men. 

I agree.

Listen up: 

We are becoming isolated now more than ever. Whereas we used to have friends over to the house in decades past, that happens less and less now.

Less social groups, less volunteering.

It’s all internet, social media and TV. The more of it we do, the less of everything else. 

The heaviest users suffer from more loneliness and depression.

The  smartphone has young people hooked, again more use, more depression. 

It’s all unnatural.

You know what I tell my kids? 

I convinced the boy when he was about five that watching any electronics causes brain worms. 

I told him these take over your brain slowly but surely until they are controlling you.

Whenever he gets too much screen time, you can see it in him. 

The obsessiveness, the boundary pushing and even rude remarks.

 Luckily, I have the cure: tickling. 

Someone has to save him from himself…

Don’t worry… 

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I’m not going to tickle you. Relax. 

But we will laugh… 

Oh yes, we will… 

I actually want you on the screen, but under your control.

Things are changing in the digital era.

 Teenagers just hanging with each other has dropped 40% or more in the last twenty years.

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More than half of Americans now sometimes feel alone and left out. 

The fear in FOMO is for real.

Americans average 240 hours annual people contact annually vs over a thousand hours of TV.

Half of meals eaten are now eaten alone. 

What the fuck? 

What about breaking bread together?

Hey, don’t get me wrong: some people prefer seclusion. 

Those fucking curmudgeons. Bless their hearts.

But not most. 

MOST of us need meaningful contact with each other. 

Or we die a little inside each day…

And just because a guy is married with kids doesn’t mean he won’t feel it. 

Half of lonely people are lonely within the family structure. 

I know, that you know, that we both know how that happens.

Either you have been there, or know someone, at least enough to know what I mean.

Loneliness has life and death consequences. 

More isolation increases stress hormones, lowers your ability to learn, causes inflammatory diseases like arthritis, heart disease, chronic pain, diabetes and dementia. 

My old man died of dementia not long ago. He really suffered his last few years. 

It was tough to watch…

Fuck that. I’m going to live to one hundred and die in my sleep like a man should. 

This all happens to men not because you can’t or won’t do something about it, it’s usually just because life demands make it hard. 

WHY?

It’s time, too busy taking care of business and others.

You need at least a handful of men you feel you can confide in and/or ask for help. 

That’s a must.

Tom says: “I highly rate and recommend 10M Men. Chris is a great facilitator and the men that this group attracts all have great insights to contribute. There’s also a bunch of additional content that comes along with it which was a pleasant surprise.” Tom McGinn 2022

Many of us grew up with distant fathers. Not all of us but many men are more comfortable with women, just because we’re not used to it.

It can leave us with a nice-guy syndrome and out of touch with our masculinity. 

Yet, having a male peer you can bounce things off is a critical success advantage. It helps in all areas.

Having men to turn to helps you:

– set goals
– find more purpose
– watch for obstacles
– discuss challenges
– overcome road-blocks
– support your efforts
– incrementally improve
– implement more effective control over your life.

Joe says: “I have recommended the 10MM board strongly to friends, family, military and civilian colleagues and leaders, and anyone knowing they are capable of more. Those that want more. The key here is you have to do the work. Understanding your weaknesses and strengths will show you where you excel and where you need to work. The Board of directors helps with this. Improving life has an infinite return. The Board propels it’s members with a trajectory, I believe, that all men need. It’s vastly improved my life.” Joe Murdie, 2022

When you were a kid, you had activities with friends, haphazard experiences (challenging and rewarding), important as boys exploring life. As grown men we can be set adrift for years as we focus on career and family obligations. We lose the male connections so vital to our growth.

Typically, men need a reason to meet up. To occupy your time, you need a payoff given your commitments. It’s to your advantage to have a quality mentor with a like-minded man dedicated to being on your side.

Let me ask: when was the last time you invested in you? Because, we all need mentoring, coaching and constant learning, especially in these fast-paced and ever-changing times.

James says: “I’m so grateful to be part of such a group, because I don’t know of anything out there that is like this. Christopher Wallace, and the 10MM Board offers guidance, cultivates men, and chisels them into elite form! I know when I say “I am a 10MM member for life!“, many, if not all members can offer the same sentiments. Thanks Chris. ???James Downing, 2022

We make it easy for you:

The 10MM board is for men who aspire to live True and Free. It’s a way to take greater control of your life so you get what you want. 

Living True and Free means living truthfully and faithfully to your purpose, and less at the behest of those around you. Sure, serving your job, family, clients, communities and so forth is good, while doing so on your own terms is even better and much more fulfilling.

A man who grows his power in service of himself and those around him leads a life of meaning. This is what sets him free.

In this innovative concept, you have access to a weekly Zoom call where you can check in with The Advisor to Men.

Over time, it can become your secret ingredient: as you gain critical oversight to your efforts without fear of judgment or rejection.  Some weeks you check in alone, other weeks there are one or two men. Other weeks there may be several more. These are your fellow brothers in arms, collectively dedicated to lives of improvement.

It’s mentoring, feedback, encouragement and accountability (if you need/want counselling you’ll get the best rates).

It’s not for men who won’t invest the minimum in themselves, or who cannot make the connection between the discipline of a weekly call and personal progress.

It is for men who want to be the best version of themselves.

You’ll keep an eye on 4 areas: body, spirit, people and work

Your 10MM board

In addition to professional oversight, each week you get an assignment if needed so you will not fail as you chip away daily at your future with a renewed road map.

You can facilitate contact by private WhatsApp channel

The idea is to gain accountability partners who have your back, whom you can rely upon for wise council.

Is that worth a few dollars?

Eric says: “If you need a regular spike of support and feedback, 10MM board is the best value for your money. Its convenient and effective in keeping you on track to be a powerful man.” Eric Moser 2022 

Let’s face it, with the move away from an agrarian culture to cities, a couple of world wars, women’s liberation and feminism, there are new challenges facing you as a modern man. Our evolution suggest we once worked alongside each other much more.  And, there’s a shit storm of change on the immediate horizon for which every man should prepare. One thing is certain, you must be aware of your impact on those around you, at work and at home, and carefully negotiate this new reality.

Relationships, work, spirit and the body are the realms over which you have dominion, where you can and will be KING. Use these elements to build a life to be proud of, one filled with deeper meaning.

JOIN 10MM boards AND GROW YOUR POWER TODAY!
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(Also available: Men of Honour is a secret FB group with learning modules and an open Zoom call Sunday at 12 noon EST (link posted in group each week and is in the announcements). Dues are just $48/annual and most 10MM men do both).

Note: you must agree to confidentiality to participate.

10MM cost is just $69 monthly/no contract. Apply today and be admitted next time we open it up! 

Stephen says: “I very highly recommend the 10MM board for any man interested in being the best they can be. The personal value I received from the group is worth many times the small monthly fee. No matter your need, you will find something that will change your life within the Board! Stephen Morey, 2022

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About C K Wallace 

Chris Wallace is the Advisor to Men and Counselor at Large, author and entrepreneur. He helps men use their power in service of themselves and those around them to find meaning and freedom. He has solved the Riddle of Addiction, the Secret to Marital Bliss, Parenting for Success and shows how good sleeping and napping are your God-given birthrights. He teaches men to be KINGS.
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